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A Life of Friendliness, Honesty, and Love*

“If you want more of something in your Life, be that something. If you want more Love, be more Loving. If you want to Live in a Peaceful society, be more Peaceful in your own Life…” I think Wayne Dyer said that, and I’ve found it to be true. It’s not often easy, mind you, but the truth of this in My Life cannot be denied.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” That’s from Gandhi, of course. It’s another way of saying that we create the Life we seek. If we want the world to change, we need to change ourselves first.

“If you want a friend, then be a friend.” That’s from a Louvin Brothers song. Good common sense. Who doesn’t need more friends? In this time of social media, we have lots of friends, at least in our digital lives. But to the point of the song lyric, who are we friends WITH? How does that manifest in THEIR Lives?

Friendship is a two-way street. That simple change of view may change your feelings about friendship. It seems obvious that friends do things for each other (Oddly enough, I’m thinking of Shrek and Donkey, here.), but most of us think too much about ourselves first. That’s the ego at work, and something that I’ve struggled with for years. So as usual, I’m writing this to myself, and covering it up by writing “you” or “we”. That’s another post, though…

There are lots of articles on the how-to of being a friend, including pictures. I’ll leave the mechanics to them. It’s in what I/You/we put out into the world that creates the world we Live in. That’s what I’m thinking about as I write this. What does being a friend mean to the world we Live in as individuals?

The first thing that comes to mind is being a LOT nicer to each other, especially to folks we don’t agree with. Civil Discourse has always been a challenge for the United States, even before we became the United States. We fought a war to become United, after all. Several wars, really. And societal change has been tough for us. But societies and cultures are made up of individuals. That’s where we can change. Don’t demonize somebody over a disagreement. “But THEY started it!” Maybe THEY did. So what? Frankly, that’s childish talk. Remember what your Mama said, “Two wrongs don’t make a right.” Debate the issues all you want. A difference of opinion does not have to lead to name-calling and churlish behavior. Be the change. Be the example. Set a standard of social interaction extending Grace and Mercy to everybody. All the religious traditions that I’m aware of call for this, so it’s time to practice what our religions stand for.

Honesty is another part of being a friend. Being honest about ourselves is a big part of this. It’s all well and good to insist that our politicians be honest, but WE have to be honest as well. I’m not saying we have to be perfect. What I’m saying is we need to see how we are, how we manifest our values into the world. Understanding our Personal Mythology helps do that. What are the stories that are generated by how you see the world? What thoughts went into the beliefs that shape your world? How do those beliefs shape your perception of the world? How do those perceptions create your world by influencing your actions? At the end of the day, it’s what we do and say that create our world. If we choose to react to others, that’s still our responsibility. A responsibility we should take more seriously. Creating and reacting have the same letters, but vastly different meanings. The results we get from creating with Honesty, then, will be vastly different from when we react by being dishonest with ourselves.

In the midst of the Civil Rights struggle, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr said, “Hate doesn’t drive out hate. Only Love can do that”. His definition of Love resonates with me:
“…agape is something of the understanding, creative, redemptive goodwill for all men. It is a love that seeks nothing in return. It is an overflowing love; it’s what theologians would call the love of God working in the lives of men. And when you rise to love on this level, you begin to love men, not because they are likable, but because God loves them. You look at every man, and you love him because you know God loves him. And he might be the worst person you’ve ever seen.”

Friendship is Unconditional Love, Honesty with yourself, and having the compassion and empathy for others that extending Grace and Mercy engenders. If we appreciate the Grace and Mercy that we have received, then we should be willing, even eager, to extend that same Grace, and to show that same Mercy, to others.

If you want a friend, then be a friend. Offer that unconditional Love to everybody you encounter.

REMEMBER – I AM offering Unconditional Love, in the spirit of Friendship, to all of Creation.
And So It Is!

~Inspired by The Season of Nonviolence.

*Borrowed in appreciation.

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Harmony

It may be that when we no longer know what to do, we have come to our real work,
and that when we no longer know which way to go, we have begun our real journey.”
― Wendell Berry

You can travel where someone has gone before, but that’s following a path, not making a journey in the truest sense. Or maybe a better word is adventure. The uncertainty of an adventure is scary to folks, and sometimes to me, too. But always knowing what to do and when to do it gets boring after a while. Sure it’s good to know how to do stuff, but you learned all of the stuff by NOT knowing.

It’s the uncertainty that scares most of us. We see it as risky business. I suppose in some way that’s what it is. But at the same time, it is opportunity. In uncertain times, many folks have flourished, mostly by having a certain view of the world. A Harmonious view, if you will.

A Harmonious view of the world creates Life by putting things together. Just like some notes fit together in one part of a song, those same notes are out of place elsewhere. This uncertainty can be of use in any number of ways. It can also tear things down. Sometimes which one will happen is unknown until you try. You may have to try time and again until you get the right combination. Those combinations, be they acts or notes or steps on an adventure, are what constitutes the real value, the truest knowing, of what is a good fit for your Life.

Harmony is what feels right to you. When you sing harmony in a group, the notes that are in harmony just feel right. That’s as true for the listener as it is for the singer. It’s true in Life, too. When something feels right, you have this sense of…Harmony. When I have acted on those feelings, thing fell into place. When I didn’t, I missed out on opportunities.

I think you can use those feelings to navigate down the new parts of your adventure. When we don’t know what to do, or when to do it, how to do it, or even why to do it, those feelings of Harmony are a good guide for us. It won’t all be the quiet Harmony of a lullaby. It might be the raw emotions of a Blues riff, or the joyous praise of a Gospel song. But the common denominator is it feels right. You may not see all the way to the end, but you’ll start to feel the progression of the adventure. Just as in a song, you’ll start to know where to go at certain times. You may also have experiences that need to go in other directions. You may have very unharmonious times in your life that lead you right to where you need to be.

You are the creator of your Life. You get to decide what songs you sing. All of the stuff that happens to you is the inspiration for the song, the notes that you put together in the Harmony of your own Life.

REMEMBER – I AM writing my own song, blending all of the new notes of My Life into a beautiful masterpiece.
And So It Is!
~ Inspired by Wendell Berry, my favorite author. After working on a piece from The Season of Nonviolence, Wendell took it a different way.

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

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Jeff’s Schedule for April 25-30, 2016

Here’s where I’ll be teaching this week. Come join me!

Monday, April 25, 2016 6:00-9:00PM. Agripreneurship Seminar:
The Customer and The Story
This is a FREE seminar!
Small Business Center, Stanly Community College, 143 N 2nd St, Albemarle, NC 28001
Here’s more information.

Ag Entrepreneurs create new ways of solving problems and creating value while using and protecting our natural resources. They meet the needs of our society while nourishing our families and developing our communities. They may create new production methods, or even new ways to do business. Tonight you’ll find out who your customer is (Hint: It ain’t everybody that eats), how to find out more about them, and how to tell them the story of your business.

Contact: Alicia Herrin (704) 991-0182 or aherrin2506@stanly.edu

Tuesday, April 26, 2016, 6:00—8:00PM The Successful Gardener: The Family Food Garden: More Fresh Food From the Home Landscape. $10.00
Reynolds Homestead, 407 Homestead Lane, Critz, VA, 24082
Here’s more information.

Never planted a garden before? Want to add more variety to your garden? This class will show you the basics of creating a garden for season–long fresh fruits and vegetables. We’ll talk about creating gardens of flowers, vegetables, herbs and small fruits to get more fresh, healthy food on your table.

Contact: Lisa Martin (276)694-7181 ext. 22 or martinlm@vt.edu

I’ll also be doing this class for the Homestead’s College for Older Adults’ Lunch n’ Learn program. Contact Lisa about that, too. The time for that class is 11:30AM—1:00PM.
Here’s more information.

Thursday, April 28, 2016 Farm Business Management
Central Carolina Community College, Pittsboro,
**This is a curriculum course and registration is closed for the semester.

You can cultivate profit in the same way you cultivate your crops. Good planning helps you work ON your business as much as you work IN your business. Creating and analyzing enterprise and whole farm budgets cultivate the farm’s operation in order to grow your farm’s profits.

This class can be offered at your community college, too. Contact me to find out how.

Saturday, April 30, 2016. In the Greenhouse at Renfrow’s! 9:00AM-2:00PM
Renfrow Hardware, 188 North Trade Street, Matthews, NC
Open Wednesday- Friday 8AM-5PM Saturday 8AM-2PM
Here’s more information.

While not a class in the strict sense, I’m glad to answer questions while you’re picking up vegetable, herb, and flower plants. Renfrows has a good selection of fruit trees, berry bushes, and grape vines, too. Plus, they have the best selection of vegetable seeds in the Charlotte metro area.

Contact: Renfrow Hardware (704)847-4088 or http://www.renfrowhardware.com/contact-us

Remember that I’m available for Home Landscape consultations, Farm visits, and small business training and consultation. You can reach me here.

Hope to see you some time this week!

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

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The Creative Power of Prayer

We underestimate the Power of Prayer. Prayer is one of the most transformational practices I have ever experienced. It is one of the ways that we shape our world. In Prayer, we take this formless Energy called Life and shape it by our thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions. Through Prayer, we create a vision in our minds of the outcome we want. We return to this vision time and time again, until we have our Prayers “answered”. We create our Lives, the very world we Live in, with the Prayers we put out into the Universe. As I look at Prayer in this way, I believe we have shortchanged ourselves for millennia. We have the Power to create our world, and far too often we dismiss it by saying, “All I can do is Pray about it.” Praying about a situation or for a person is one of the most powerful things we can do. The massed prayers of the Faithful, along with the actions produced by those prayers, have certainly changed things over the centuries.

It is time to take a more active role in what folks call our Prayer Life. Putting some thought into our Prayers could very well change the way we Pray. This is, of course, another way to say, Pray consciously and with Intention. Using Intention to focus this tremendous Power we’ve been given may change what we Pray for, when we Pray, the form of the Prayer, and the Faith with which we Pray. When we truly believe we have this Creative Force that we can use to change things, our Prayers should have a much more confident tone to them. Creating “I AM” statements of Intention, and using those Intentions to Create our Lives, will focus those Prayers toward “Who I Am”.

From a practical standpoint, that tells me that I should be Praying much more optimistically, stating clearly and positively the desired outcome. Don’t we say, “Pray FOR me”? That puts positive thoughts behind the Prayer. We are shaping our Prayer in an affirmative way that is creative and not reactive. Our Prayer is based on what we are FOR, not what we are trying to avoid. For instance, concentrate on creating health, rather than avoiding a disease. Pray for Abundance, not avoiding foreclosure. In doing this, we are shaping the dialog with the Divine around the affirmative energies in the world. This makes us more likely to be open to seeing the Good in the situation. We then are more likely to create a more positive outcome.

I’ve found this approach to be much more Powerful when used in less than pleasant circumstances. Affirmative Prayer has helped me when My Life was flipped upside down after bad choices I’d made. It’s helped me deal with the illness and death of my father. When the sound and fury of modern society tends to wear on me, positive Prayer is much more Life-affirming than yelling at the television! Seriously, spending time reflecting on the Good in Life, be it a Blessing or in challenging circumstances, helps me create instead of react.

“Prayer doesn’t change things. Prayer changes ME. Then I change things.” This has been said by many people of Faith over the centuries. It isn’t a revolutionary view of Prayer, or even the only view. But it is a viewpoint that puts the opportunity to change right in our hands. And it brings the Power to take advantage of the opportunity in our hands as well.

REMEMBER – I AM Praying with Intention. I AM Praying to change the world by Praying to change myself.
And So It Is!

~ Inspired by The Season of Nonviolence, many hours of thought and research, and by a flash of inspiration after setting it aside after several days.

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

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Jeff”s Schedule for April 18-23, 2016

Here’s where I’ll be teaching this week. Come join me!

Monday, April 18, 2016 6:00-9:00PM. Agripreneurship Seminar: The Agripreneur & The Idea

Small Business Center, Stanly Community College,
143 N 2nd St, Albemarle, NC 28001
This is a FREE seminar!
Here’s more info:

Agripreneurs create new ways of solving problems and creating value while using and protecting our natural resources. They meet the needs of our society while nourishing our families and developing our communities. They may create new production methods, or even new ways to do business. Tonight you’ll discover the skill set of the Agripreneur, get some of the basics of those skills, and learn to recognize opportunity when it appears.

Contact: Alicia Herrin (704) 991-0182 or
aherrin2506@stanly.edu

Tuesday, April 19, 2016 6:30—8:30PM
The Organic Gardening Primer

Renfrow Hardware, 188 North Trade Street, Matthews, NC
Cost: $20.00 per person, 2 or more family members $15.00 each

You CAN grow fresh, healthy food at home without a lot of pesticides and synthetic fertilizers. This class has something for beginners and experienced gardeners alike – a fresh, healthy͟ approach to growing more food for your family!

Contact: pressly@renfrowfarm.com or call the store and leave a message 704- 847-4088. You can also join us without registering.

Wednesday, April 20 2016 10:00AM-12:00PM
Morning Edition, The Organic Gardening Primer

Renfrow Hardware, 188 North Trade Street, Matthews, NC
Cost: $20.00 per person, 2 or more family members $15.00 each

For those of you who can’t make it on Tuesday, here’s your second chance to learn the basics of organic gardening. You CAN grow fresh, healthy food at home without a lot of pesticides and synthetic fertilizers. This class has something for beginners and experienced gardeners alike – a fresh, healthy͟ approach to growing more food for your family!

Contact: pressly@renfrowfarm.com or call the store and leave a message 704- 847-4088. You can also join us without registering.

Thursday, April 21, 2016
Central Carolina Community College, Pittsboro, NC
Farm Business Management
**This is a curriculum course and registration is closed for the semester.

You can cultivate profit in the same way you cultivate your crops. Good planning helps you work ON your business as much as you work IN your business. Creating and analyzing enterprise and whole farm budgets cultivate the farm’s operation in order to grow your farm’s profits.

This class can be offered at your community college, too. Contact me to find out how.

Saturday, April 23, 2016. 11:00AM-3:00PM
A Day at Retreat

The House In The Horseshoe State Historic Site,
288 Alston House Rd, Sanford, NC 27330

I’ll be giving tours of this beautiful house that sits in a horseshoe bend of the Deep River.

From the website –
As the Deep River wanders through North Carolina’s Piedmont plateau and curves in a horseshoe bend, there stands on a hilltop above it one of the first big houses of upland North Carolina frontier country, the House in the Horseshoe. Built around 1772, the house was named “Retreat” by its second owner, Gov. Benjamin Williams. Known as the Alston House, its walls still bear numerous scars and bullet holes from a Revolutionary War skirmish.

Join us for an agricultural-themed event with costumed interpreters. Help plant the annual garden and take home your own seedlings!

Contact: Phone: (910) 947-2051. Email: horseshoe@ncdcr.gov

Hope to see you some time this week!

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

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Take A Deep Breath

“Just take a deep breath.”

It’s a piece of advice that people have given countless thousands of times. Your Mom probably said it to you. Mine certainly did. I’ve said it so many times to my kids and my grandson, I can’t count them. It’s very good advice in just about any situation, as long as it’s safe to breathe.

Breath is central to a Yoga practice, too. It is considered the source of our Prana, or vital Life force. In fact, there is a formal practice of breathing called Pranayama, or “Life-force (breath) control”. At it’s simplest, Pranayama is using the breath in different ways to calm your body or to quiet your mind or to become more aware of the soul within you. That’s the union, or “yoke”, that is Yoga; the integration of body, mind, and soul.

This yoking of body, mind and soul has ancient ties in the West as well. The word inspire comes from the Old Latin word inspirare, “to breathe in”. The breath must have been recognized as sacred, because the Middle English meaning was “Divine guidance”.

When you think of inspiration in these modern times, you usually think of some person that affected you deeply. Maybe a life-changing event or a beautiful sunset inspired you to alter a harmful behavior or to create something equally beautiful. When that inspiration hits you, your breathing changes, doesn’t it? A sharp intake of breath when that idea drops out of nowhere. The rapid breathing as the excitement of the realization excites your mind. And then that deep breath that takes us from inspiration to action.

Inspiration is our becoming our best selves, moving us toward Who We Really Are. Inspiration shows us that we are, in fact, creative beings, regardless of what we’ve been told by others. Inspiration guides us to creative acts of Love and Compassion that create a world we want to Live in. Inspiration gives us Faith that we can create this world through our actions, especially when we keep that inspiration in front of us by believing that we can change the world.

So how DO we keep that inspiration in front of us? Where do we look for the inspiration on a day-to-day basis? I do it by regular practice of positive word and music.

Music is a big inspiration for me. I use it in nearly every part of My Life. I’m very selective about the songs I add to playlists. I only use a song if it builds up one of my “I AM” intentions. Songs about Love, Compassion, and Faith are the songs I listen to. I don’t limit my self to “religious” music, either. I have as many rock & roll songs on my playlists as I do Gospel songs. I have George Thorogood (rock &I roll), Sam Cooke (Gospel, R&B), Bill Gaither (Southern Gospel), and Krishna Das (Kirtan chanting) on the same playlist. What they have in common is that these songs inspire me to be Who I Really Am.

The words I read are equally important. I look for positive, uplifting stories that build community. I seek out the news reports of folks helping each other to survive and thrive in all kinds of situations. I listen to recordings that support what I’m trying to do and to be. Like the music, I’m inspired to be Who I Really Am.

Each of us has different inspirations. Judging or condemning someone else’s inspirations because you don’t like them or even fear them is, in essence, judging and condemning your own sources of inspiration. That’s because we are identical in the need for inspiration in order to become our best selves. The more freedom we give others grants more freedom to ourselves. Besides, all that judging and condemning takes way too much time and energy. Time and energy that are better spent in becoming Who We Really Are.

Take a deep breath. Take another one. And again. Feel the Life force of the breath. Feel the inspiration. Now go and create something wonderful.

REMEMBER – I AM breathing in Love, Creativity, & Confidence. These breaths inspire me to become my best self.
And So It Is!

~ Inspired by The Season of Nonviolence, and an entry I found in a dictionary.

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

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Be FOR Something ll

There’s an article ripping across the digital world about the Tampa area local food scene. The gist of the article is that many of the so-called “farm-to-fork” restaurants in Tampa are less than forthcoming about the local food they use. I read it when it first came out. I wasn’t impressed. Out of all the words used to write the article, only a few were written in support of those folks who actually do work with local farmers, fishermen (& women), and value-added producers.

In all of the sound & fury of modern times, it’s easy to find something wrong with the world. Concentrating on what’s wrong, however, only trains your brain to see what’s wrong. Looking at the thousands of things that go right for you every single day will help you see what’s right with the world. Trust me when I say this isn’t some Pollyanna approach to Life. You’ll still be bombarded by the sound & fury. You’ll get to see every wart and dimple on the world’s backside, if you care to look at that sort of thing. But by seeing the Good in Life, you’ll avoid sharing the sour, puckered view of the world careening down the Highway to Hell, with all of its occupants screaming helplessly as we plunge into the flaming abyss. It’s that kind of viewpoint that creates the screaming mess that is passing for political discourse this election year.

Instead, be FOR something. If you’re FOR building a Local Food Culture, when you discover that somebody is misleading the public about Local Food, you’ll work harder to promote those folks that are real supporters of the Culture. Call folks out if needed, sure. Hold people to a high standard in a Loving way. Let’s build community.

As a purveyor of intellectual property, I’m keenly aware of the need for food producers to protect their brand reputations. Reputations, or personal brands, are a big part of the relationship between food producers and consumers. Being FOR things adds positives to that reputation. That good reputation also gives you a group of allies – your customers. It takes everybody to build a Culture of any kind, but this is particularly so of a Local Food Culture. We can look out for each other in constructive, positive ways to build a food culture that offers profits to everybody, including the consumer.

Being FOR something, and supporting that something based in an Unconditional Love and with a genuine Compassion, is a big step toward creating the world you want to Live in. Being FOR something means you Consciously, Lovingly, Compassionately, choose what you are for. It means you are well-informed about what you are for. It means you have strong Intentions toward what you are creating. It means you act out of Love in a Conscious, Intentional manner. It means you put your Intention and your Action toward that which you are for.

There’s a saying, “energy flows where attention goes”. Simply put, you’re going to get more results when you pay attention to something. If you pay lots of attention to what you are against, you aren’t putting Intention and Action towards what you are for. The attention you give something directs the actions you take. Suspicion and accusation lead to distrust. Support and encouragement create community. You create with your actions. Your actions are guided by your Intentions. Those Intentions are created by your thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions. You get to choose. As the saying goes, “Choose wisely”.

REMEMBER – I AM FOR _________________________.
(You get to fill in the blank.)
And So It Is!

~ Inspired by the good people that grow, sell, cook, and eat good food!

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

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Choose Yourself. Start today.

One of the things lost in the sound and fury of the US election season is individual and community responses to the challenges we face in this nation.

All I hear from both sides is how some part or another of our government is rigged against the common people. I’m not going to disagree with that, but there are plenty of places to rail against stuff. I’m not going to add to that.What I want to talk about about is just going and doing what needs to be done.

Those of you that do the Facebook thing may have seen this last night:
“Don’t wait to be chosen. Choose yourself. I don’t remember who said that. (I remembered this morning. It was Seth Godin) It’s important that you hear it, though. Too often we wait for somebody else to give us permission to be creative. We let others make the call as to what we do with our own lives. There’s no need to wait. Take that idea and work on it. That project you’ve been thinking about? Start working on it. Want a new career or to start a business? Do it!
Even if you think you aren’t creative, you really are. We, all of us, are constantly creating something. Choose yourself. Create your Life!”

That was inspired by a random page I read in a book in a thrift shop. We have the ability to use our Lives as a canvas to create whatever we want. We don’t have to wait for someone else to say, “Go ahead and do that”, whatever that is. We don’t need to be chosen by the lottery or a beautiful woman or a handsome man. We can, and should, choose ourselves to do whatever it is that needs to be done.

I can hear the choruses of “I can’t!” already. I know many of the excuses because I’ve used them myself. Life ain’t always easy, and it sure as Hell ain’t fair. The best way to do something about that is to choose yourself to do what you want. “What if I want to be rich?” Then choose yourself. Get busy, do something about it. Work at it, and who knows? I will say that I think it helps to get your degree in Spiritual Alchemy (otherwise known as getting your shit together), so you can develop a healthy, wealth-minded Personal Mythology. Frankly, that’s been tough for me. Don’t know why. But I’m working on it.

I know there are folks in the world that have been dealt a bad hand in Life. I’m not minimizing their situations at all. I’ve been the recipient of Unconditional Love in My Life after some stuff happened to me. I am literally still alive because of the Compassion shown me. What that taught me is that one of the required courses in Spiritual Alchemy is selfless service. Helping those that need it is a great way to show Gratitude for your own Blessings, and a means for your Higher Power (name of your choice) to teach you Compassion and Empathy. You’ll learn Humility, too, if you go into service for ego-driven reasons.

Regardless of your situation, choose yourself. “Start today” as Michael Franti sings. Need help? Ask for it. Need money? In these days of crowdfunding, a good idea (and preferably not a selfish one) is to ask for it, being willing to offer something in return.

Don’t wait for permission. Don’t wait for the gatekeepers. Choose yourself. Start today.

REMEMBER – I AM choosing myself to create the world I want to live in. I AM starting today.
And So It Is!

~ Inspired by Lyle Estil, Seth Godin, and Michael Franti

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

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Dropping An F-Bomb

Before you get excited about what I’m writing about, remember that the F-bomb that I’m talking about is Forgiveness. In this case, forgiving yourself. As a recovering perfectionist, I have a lot of things I see in myself that need forgiving.*

Most of those things are the result of old stories that were/are deeply embedded in My Personal Mythology. I’ve believed that I wasn’t “good enough” for a very long time. I’ve dealt with inner critics, dragon mythology, and Jungian archetypes, and sometimes I still have to listen to that bullshit. And all this time it was just some stories that I was reacting to. Something would happen, my mind would tell one of those old stories that started “This happened because you’re not good enough to…”, and I believed the story. That meant I wasn’t good enough – to me, at least. So I manifested that out into the world.

What’s the source of these stories? I don’t really know, but that’s not the point. What matters here is that there is no truth to “I’m not good enough”. It’s just a set of stories that I told myself. These stories set up all kinds of expectations, and the expectations were usually unrealistic. I set myself up to not be good enough. That lets the critic say, “See, I told you so.” Or you listen to the critic, and you don’t even try. Ask me how I know that.

If this is familiar to you, think about that inner critic that is always badgering you, telling you:
“You can’t do that”.
“I _______ because I’m not good enough to_____ .”
“I CAN”T do that! (“I’m not good enough” is unspoken here.)

There are some things that we can’t do. There always seems to be someone just a little better at something than us. And maybe you are never the best at anything. Sometimes we just plain fuck things up, either from ignorance or laziness or…you get the picture. We ain’t perfect. But what we DO with that is what’s key here. And that is the result of our Personal Mythology, that story we tell ourselves.

Realize that the reaction we have to what happens is the result of that story. That story is only as true as you let it be. You weren’t the best at something. That doesn’t mean you’re worthless, which is what “I’m not good enough” really means. What happened may not even be about you. In a relationship break-up, except in cases like abuse (yes, I’m sure there are others), when someone says, “It ‘s me, not you”, believe it. Even if they don’t mean it, there’s lots of truth in the statement for you. Because it’s the story they told themselves about you and the relationship that caused the end. What YOU did with that is based on YOUR story.

Forgiving yourself becomes much easier once you understand that “I’m not good enough” is not true. It’s a story. You can decide whether you want to manifest that fear and make it “true” or just drop an F-bomb on it.

Forgiving yourself makes it much easier to take responsibility for making amends if needed. That includes to yourself. Because sometimes you do. You can drop an F-bomb into that situation and make it better.

Forgiving yourself gives you the opportunity to discover those old stories that come out as “I’m not good enough”. The author James Arthur Ray says we can learn how to identify those stories by the feelings we have that surround a reaction to some situation. Whenever you get angry or afraid or act outside of your Intentions, this is an opportunity. Ask yourself, “Why did I react this way? What’s the story behind it?” Pay attention to how you felt. You will begin to perceive a common feeling. That feeling, that reaction is the key to tracking down the story. Those stories quite often come from childhood, either stories we were told by parents or teachers or preachers, or stories from our own experience. And since we were often taught by people who were Loving but unconscious creators themselves, we didn’t have a lot Conscious Creation teaching to work with.

Drop F-bombs all over the place, tell yourself the story that you ARE Good Enough simply because you are a Living Example of the Divine. Then learn how to create Life with stories that you write with Conscious Creation skills. That’s a different Mythology. It has been for me, anyway.

There’s an unlimited supply of F-bombs available from an Open, Loving heart. Drop F-bombs of Forgiveness everywhere you go. Don’t be afraid to drop a few on yourself while you’re at it.

REMEMBER – I AM Good Enough simply because I AM Alive. I Forgive myself for not always believing that I AM.
And So It Is!

~ Inspired by events in My Life.

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

*I’m even more uncomfortable writing about it. Full disclosure, I’m on my 7th or 8th attempt at writing about self-forgiveness.

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I Accept!

I AM giving up the phrase, “It is what it is”. It just reeks of a weary resignation to the way the world is. I don’t know about you, but I want to change the world I Live in. And I’m doing it everyday. So accepting the world as it is isn’t something I’m interested in, truth be told.

I AM more interested in accepting my responsibility for creating my world. I AM creating new thought patterns every day. These new “thoughtforms” are the molds I use to shape the beliefs I hold. My beliefs shape the way I see the world. Positive thoughts shape positive beliefs. These beliefs present a world that is one I can Love and Live and Thrive in. And this world is manifested by the choices I make and the actions I take.

By accepting that responsibility, you can create your Life, too. This isn’t just positive thinking. It’s CREATION using the power of your mind. Creation of your world. That’s Power. Accept that Power. I hope you understand that you are in the midst of the ongoing creation of the Universe every single day. Creation began a loooong time ago (I’ll let you pick your own starting point), and it will never finish. WE – you and I – are a vital part of that creation. Every time we make a conscious choice to accept that Power of Creation, you are accepting Power beyond your wildest dreams. YOU create your Life by the choices you make, the thoughts you have, the beliefs you hold, the way you see the world. And yeah, with great power comes great responsibility, I know. But the main thing is to accept that Power. Use it (responsibly!). Make mistakes with it, Fix those mistakes. Create something better. Then do it again. You do it anyway, why not do it with some awareness of what you’re doing?

If you have to accept something, accept the Power to change the world. Then go do it.

REMEMBER – I AM changing the world by accepting the Power of Creation.
And So It Is!

~ Inspired by The Season of Nonviolence and by accepting the Power to change the world.

Peace, Grace, & Love,
Jeff

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