Finding the Good in “the messy business of Life”* isn’t learning from adversity. It’s seeing Life in a whole new way. It’s taking something that seems bad (Lets face it. Sometimes it IS just plain awful at the time.) and using it, transforming it into something so good you can’t believe that it’s happening to you.
When something bad happens to us, we usually “make the best of things”. But that’s usually a mixture of resignation to what happened and trying your best to not think about it. What I’m talking about is real transformation, the conscious choice to do something with the giant hairball that you just got handed.
A few years ago I had a series of events happen very quickly in My Life that crushed several long-held dreams. I went into deep depression and I mean it when I say that The Grace Of God is the only reason I’m still alive. I made some bad unconscious choices that, for some reason, were stopped before they were manifested in My Life. I was given a second chance at choosing. This time I made some conscious choices to go on with My Life. I started with re-writing My Personal Mythology. I didn’t call it that at the time, but I began to question all of the stories I held about Life and how to Live it. I went in search of stories that held a resonance for me that I could call “truth” at least for a bit. It wasn’t a quick process, but an evolutionary one. It wasn’t easy or pain free, either. One day, though, I was sitting in church and realized I was Happy again. Let me tell you THAT was a Big Deal! It was a Life changing moment. And it all came from something awful.
Did the Good things that happened to me transform the awful experience into a Good one? Not only no, but HELL NO!!! But the experience gave me a chance to transform ME. I was assisted by lots of people in the transformation. For that I will be forever Grateful. I was able and willing to do The Work of Transformation in a conscious manner, aided by people that Loved me.
Conscious transformation is so much more that accepting what happens to you, and letting time heal the wounds. Frankly, that’s one of the “truths” I had to purge from My Personal Mythology so I could change My Life in a conscious manner. We CAN change our Lives. We do it all of the time. The question is, do we consciously transform into a Loving, Compassionate soul, Living a Creative, Abundant Life? Or do we become bitter and jaded, convinced that the world is full of people out to take what little we have gained from our hard work? I was headed full bore toward the latter til things came crashing down on my head. Through continued (to this day) conscious choice, I’m headed in a different direction.
There’s a quote attributed to the Greek philosopher Epictetus, “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” I find that to be a Truth in My Life. Be willing to let it be a Truth for you.
REMEMBER – I AM creating My Life with constant conscious choice, transforming “messy business” into a Good Life.
And So It Is!
~ Inspired by events in My Life
*I wish I could remember who said this.
Peace, Grace, & Love,